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2005/12/31

Police Departments Must take An Active Role in Officer Violence

@ 04:39 AM (30 months, 17 days ago)
Law Enforcement agencies across the country must begin to develop new strategies when dealing with officer violence within police homes and personal relationships. When Departments look away and a tragedy happens, they too, must be held accountable, they too have committed a crime when they allow officers to get away with criminal behavior.  In the new year the justice department must take a more active role in law enforcment and accountability efforts so that we reduce officer on officer crimes and those within police families. What the following study doesn't offer is real solutions.  Officers take their lives because of unrealistic expectations of their jobs, family problems, drinking (I call it hand to mouth combat) these are just a few.  I appauld the Critical Incident Supporrt Team, but much,much more needs to be done Nationwide.  In working with families of police officers for over 15 years and learning from my Mothers own tragic death by a man, who just happned to be my father,a Chicago Violent Crimes Detective, sworn to serve and protect who then took his own life.   I have seen little changes in real support and assistance for all police officers who give their lives to serve their communities for all of us each and every day. 
 
...According to research at Radford University in Virginia, suicide among law enforcement professionals is 52 percent higher than in the general population. Drs. Michael Aamodt and Nicole Stalnaker found that 26.6 percent of police suicides are due to relationship problems. A large number of them, 12.3 percent, turn into murder-suicides...
 
This article is out of Maryland
 
Support team helps police deal with stresses of job 
12/29/05
Owings Mills Times
By Louis Llovio
Respond to this story

Franklin Precinct's Lt. Mike Baylog has to deal with the everyday stress that goes along with being a cop. As leader of the county's Critical Incident Support Team, he helps carry the burden of other police officers, as well.
 
Through the team, Baylog counsels officers who must deal with the death of a fellow officer, with officers who have trouble handling violent deaths in the community and with cops who have faced life-threatening confrontations.
 
But losing one of their own - as the Baltimore City Police Department did Dec. 21 when two officers were killed- is one of the toughest parts of the job.
 
Baylog remembers when the Franklin Precinct experienced the death of a fellow officer and friend. It was Morris Barksdale, a father of four and a 15-year veteran of the Baltimore County police, who was killed in a motorcycle accident July 2 in Essex.
 
Baylog, a 16-year veteran of the Baltimore County Police Department, describes the fraternity of police officers as a "brotherhood and sisterhood." Losing someone like Barksdale was "devastating to the unit."
 
"We're significantly closer than other co- workers" in other fields, he said. "We're all living through this (police work) together. When you go into a dangerous situation, you rely on them as your backup."
 
Because of the nature of the job, he said, the bond officers develop is akin to what soldiers feel toward other soldiers in their unit.
 
When an officer witnesses a death in the community they serve, or when a co-worker is killed in the line of duty, the randomness puts police officers on edge, reminding them how their lives are always in danger.
 
"We like things to make sense," Baylog said, and sometimes the death does not make sense. "We can't control nature, but you'd like to think you can help another human."
 
That's when Baylog and the 13 other members of the Critical Incident Support Team step in.
 
All Baltimore County police officers have access to Baylog's support team. Sometimes officers' commanders put troubled officers in touch with the team.
 
But "most guys just come up and tell us they need help," Baylog said.
 
He describes the work the unit does as a "first-aid counseling."
 
Many officers suffer nightmares, have mood swings, relive the experience over and over or have problems sleeping after an incident.
 
"Some cops think they're going nuts. But they're just having normal reactions," Baylog said. The support team explains that what they are going through is normal. Eventually, most settle down, Baylog said.
 
But occasionally the support team identifies deeper, long-term issues in the officers they counsel. In those cases, they recommend to officers where in the community health care system they can get help.
 
The difficult work the unit does is compounded by the fact that police officers, because of the stress the job puts on them and their relationships, have higher suicide rates than people in other professions.
 
According to research at Radford University in Virginia, suicide among law enforcement professionals is 52 percent higher than in the general population.
 
Drs. Michael Aamodt and Nicole Stalnaker found that 26.6 percent of police suicides are due to relationship problems.
 
A large number of them, 12.3 percent, turn into murder-suicides.
 
But Baylog believes that cops, if they find ways to talk about their problems and unload their burdens, can be healthy.
 
"We're cops," he laughs. "We don't want to talk to shrinks."
 
For most, they don't have to. Other cops are there to listen.
 
http://news.mywebpal.com/news_tool_v2.cfm?show=localnews&pnpID=809&NewsID=685246&CategoryID=5830&on=1
 
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2005/12/30

Chief of Police Frank Dunn charged with 3 felonies

@ 01:16 AM (30 months, 18 days ago)
3 Excerpts from 4 articles below:   Frank Dunn, the chief of police in McMechen, W. Va, and former Moundsville police officer, was arrested Wednesday night and charged with three sexually related felonys... The alleged victim is his stepdaughter, police say he has repeatedly raped her. The allegations came to light after police responded to Dunn's home last month on a domestic abuse call...
 
...Dunn admitted to the allegations in a signed statement...
 
...According to Sgt. Wagner the investigation is expected to continue. Sgt. Wagner told 7 News that another female accusing Dunn of abuse is expected to come forward in the investigation...
  
4 Articles:
 
McMechen Police Chief Jailed
Wheeling News Register, WV
By MICHELLE BLUM 
Dec 29, 2005
 
A veteran Marshall County law enforcement officer has been arrested on sex-related charges, according to the West Virginia State Police, and he later admitted to the allegations in a signed statement.
 
McMechen Police Chief Franklin Delano Dunn, 63, of Moundsville, a retired Mounds-ville police officer and a member of the Moundsville Civil Service Commission, was taken into custody at about 6:30 p.m. Wednesday on warrants charging him with one count each of incest, sexual abuse by a custodian and second degree sexual assault.
 
The warrants were signed by Marshall County Magistrate David Buzzard.
 
Sgt. Thomas Wagner, commander of the West Virginia State Police detachment in Mounds-ville, said the alleged incidents involved a female who was between 16 and 18 years of age.
 
Dunn was arraigned in Marshall County Magistrate Court late Wednesday and is being held in the Northern Regional Jail on a total of $30,000 bond - $10,000 for each of the counts.
 
Wagner, who arrested Dunn, said the incest and sexual abuse by a custodian incidents allegedly occurred between 2001 and 2003. The second degree sexual assault incident allegedly occurred this Nov. 25, he said.
 
"This just came to light recently," Wagner said of the investigation.
 
Wagner described the case as being "fluid, with ongoing investigation."
 
He also said there may be a second victim who is not related to the first.
 
McMechen Mayor Kenneth Robbins said late Wednesday he'd received a phone call from someone "who said there may be something going on." However, he said, he didn't have details.
 
Robbins said he would meet with members of McMechen Council to determine how to proceed on Dunn's employment with the city.
 
"We'll have to see when is the best time for everyone to get together," he said.
 
In the interim, Lt. Jeff Poling is head of the McMechen Police Department, Robbins said.
 
According to Wagner, Dunn admitted to the allegations in a signed statement.
 
Wagner said the additional charges are expected to be presented to the Marshall County grand jury. Wetzel County Prosecutor Timothy Haught has been assigned as special prosecutor for the case.
 
http://www.news-register.net/news/story/1229202005_new02.asp
 
 
 
McMechen police chief charged with sex crimes
Charleston Gazette
December 29, 2005
 
McMECHEN — State Police arrested the chief of the McMechen Police Department Wednesday night on charges that he had sex with his underage step-daughter.
 
Frank Delano Dunn, 63, of Moundsville was arrested about 6:30 p.m. by Sgt. Thomas Wagner of the State Police Moundsville detachment.
 
Dunn had sexual intercourse with his step-daughter while she was between 16 and 18 years old, police said in a news release. He admitted to the charges in a signed statement, police said.
 
Dunn is also a retired Moundsville police officer and a member of the Moundsville Civil Service Commission.
 
Tim Haught, the Weztel County prosecutor, has been assigned as special prosecutor for this case. State Police continue to investigate. Additional charges are pending.
 
Dunn was charged with one count each of incest, sexual abuse by custodian and second-degree sexual assault. If convicted on all charges, he could face up to 60 years in prison.
 
He was being held in Northern Regional Jail on $30,000 bond
 
http://sundaygazettemail.com/section/News/Other%20News/2005122819
 
 
 
Police Chief Charged With Sex Crimes
WTOV9.com, OH - 4 hours ago
December 29, 2005
 
Frank Dunn, the chief of police in McMechen, W. Va, and former Moundsville police officer, was arrested Wednesday night and charged with three sexually related felonys.
 
Dunn is charged with one count of incest, one count of sexual abuse by custodian, and one count of sexual assault in the second degree.
 
The alleged victim is his stepdaughter, police say he has repeatedly raped her. The allegations came to light after police responded to Dunn's home last month on a domestic abuse call.
 
"While they were investigating the domestic, the allegations of some sexual misconduct came to light," said Sgt. Thomas Wagner of the West Virginia State Police. "And because of the relationship between Frank Dunn and the police department they referred the case to me, so it was unbiased."
 
Bond is set at $30,000. The alleged victim was taken from the home so she will be out of harms way.
 
Police say if convicted on all counts, 63 year-old Dunn could spend the rest of his life in prison.
 
Police tell NEWS9 they are still investigating this incident, and they are seeking a second victim related to this case.
 
A preliminary hearing will be held in the next 10 days, unless Dunn waives that. Then it would go before the Marshall County Grand Jury in March.
 
John Paul, NEWS9
 
http://www.wtov9.com/news/5699936/detail.html
 
 
 
McMechen Police Chief Arrested
WVNS-TV
Posted 12/28/2005 11:36 PM
Story by Julie Kroenig  Email 
jkroenig@wtrf.com
 
The police chief of the small town of McMechen is on the other side of the bars as Frank Dunn is taken into custody on allegations of sexual abuse. 7 news has learned the West Virginia State Police has taken Dunn into custody tonight on multiple charges including incest.
 
The West Virginia state police took the chief of police in McMechen, Frank Dunn, into custody for 3 counts of sexual abuse. The West Virginia state police had been investigating Dunn on these charges for the past couple of months, but according to Sgt. Wagner of the West Virginia State Police Dunn had already admitted to certain crimes during the investigation. Dunn is currently facing one count of incest, one count of sexual abuse by a custodian, and one count of sexual assault in the second degree. According to Sgt. Wagner the investigation is expected to continue. Sgt. Wagner told 7 News that another female accusing Dunn of abuse is expected to come forward in the investigation.
 
http://www.wvnstv.com/story.cfm?func=viewstory&storyid=7653


Officers who continue to abuse the power of the badge is a growing problem.  Departments across the country need to be accountable to not only the communities they serve, but the families of the officers must also be protected.  As you have seen in past blogs, the system continues to slap these law enforcement officer wrists and nothing more.  It is not until a serious crime occurs and the public pays attention that something is finally done to officers who commit these crimes.

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2005/12/29

Book On Divorce

@ 05:48 AM (30 months, 19 days ago)

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2005/12/28

Consumer Beware!

@ 06:01 PM (30 months, 20 days ago)

Please remember to be careful with all emails you receive at home and at work.  Now more than ever, emails are being sent by companies, financial institutions, credit card companies that we all do business with on a regular basis. They can look the like real thing, but are not.

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2005/12/27

A teen commits suicide every 100 minutes

@ 04:30 AM (30 months, 21 days ago)

Every 100 minutes another teenager will commit suicide.

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2005/12/24

Easy Money or Just More Debt?

@ 07:39 PM (30 months, 23 days ago)

We have all seen the advertisements for quick money. The ads tell us that all we have to do is show a pay stub and write a post dated check and we'll get an advance or a loan. I’m talking about payday loans.  They claim to offer an easy way out of debt.  One company even says they are “your cash solution”.  These finance companies make it seem like free money.   Payday loans are very high-risk loans, loan sharking or cash advance loans.  They actually are short-term loans with very high interest and in most states are perfectly legal.

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2005/12/23

Passage of Violence Against Women Act Waits Presidents Signature

@ 04:23 AM (30 months, 25 days ago)
WASHINGTON, D.C.) – Today, U.S. Senator Patty Murray made the following statement on Congressional passage of a bill to reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act:
 
"Mr. President, I rise today to speak about the Violence Against Women Act, which Congress has finally reauthorized after many delays. As my colleagues know, the final bill passed the Senate on Friday , it passed the House on Saturday, and it is now headed to the President for his signature.
 
As domestic violence leaders in my home state of Washington will tell you, this reauthorization is long overdue. VAWA has been a critical tool for fighting domestic violence, and it should have never been allowed to expire. The Republican leadership finally recognized that, and now we will strengthen and expand that critical law.
 
Today I want to discuss some of the improvements we've passed – including new tools related to healthcare, housing, and abuse that involves police officers. I also want to share my disappointment that the economic protections I've worked to include were removed when this bill was considered by the Senate Judiciary Committee.
 
I've tried to advance critical economic protections at every turn, and I want to update my colleagues – and advocates in Washington state – about where those efforts stand. I do want to thank several of my colleagues for their hard work on this bill, including -- Senators Leahy, Specter, Biden, Hatch and Kennedy.
 
Updating a National Strategy
 
Mr. President, the original Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) created a national strategy for dealing with domestic violence. And that strategy has been very successful. VAWA brought together victims’ advocates, social service providers, and law enforcement professionals to meet the immediate challenges of domestic violence. This bill reauthorizes and strengthens those core programs.
 
This bill also creates new programs that represent important steps forward in areas like healthcare, housing and officer-involved abuse.
 
New Healthcare Initiative
 
The first new step concerns healthcare. For the first time, VAWA includes a national health care response to domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault and stalking. It authorizes new grants to train health care providers to recognize and respond to domestic or sexual violence. These grants will help establish partnerships between victims service providers and health care providers in state hospitals and public health departments. It also provides funding for direct services for sexual assault victims, including 24-hour emergency and support services.
 
New Housing Support for Abuse Victims
 
Second, this law now addresses housing inequities for victims by providing new grants to help victims find long-term housing. It also protects the confidentiality of victims who are receiving assistance from Department of Housing and Urban Development-funded programs. VAWA also now includes provisions to protect mail order brides and expands protections for immigrant victims.
 
Creation of the Crystal Judson Domestic Violence Protocol Program
 
This legislation also addresses the issue of police officer-involved domestic violence. I have spoken about this issue on the Senate floor before because of a terrifying case in Washington state. In April 2003, Tacoma police chief David Brame shot and killed his wife, Crystal Judson Brame. Then he took his own life, all while their two young children watched. The final tragic act was the last in a long history of abusive events.
 
In response to this incident, the City of Tacoma, the Tacoma Police Department, and others formed a task force to examine officer-involved domestic violence. They created a new policy for the Tacoma Police Department, and they helped pass a state law which requires that departments have policies on officer-involved abuse.
 
This VAWA bill gives local communities new resources to deal with abuse that involves police officers. It funds the Crystal Judson Domestic Violence Protocol Program. It allows law enforcement agencies, victim service providers, and federal, state and local governments to use STOP grant funds to create new protocols for handling officer-involved domestic violence.
 
What happened in Tacoma is a tragedy that cannot be weighed. Out of that tragedy, Washington state changed it laws, and now the federal government is giving communities across the country new tools to address officer-involved abuse. So that new provision – along with the healthcare and housing measures – represent new progress in fighting domestic violence.
 
But frankly, we've got a lot more work to do. I am deeply disappointment that the economic protections I have been fighting for since 1998 were not included in this reauthorization – despite some early progress.
 
We Still Need to Address the Economic Barriers that Trap Victims
Mr. President, if we are going to break the cycle of violence, we need to address the economic barriers that trap victims in abusive relationships.
We know that financial insecurity is a major factor in ongoing domestic violence. Too often, victims don't have the financial strength to leave a violent relationship. As a result, they are forced to choose between protecting themselves and keeping a roof over their heads. When a victim cannot afford to move out, or cannot afford to pay the rent, or has lost a job because of abuse, that person is trapped, and Congress needs to help free them from that trap.
 
My Attempt to Provide Unpaid Leave for Abuse Victims
 
In this bill, we had an opportunity to help victims. In the Senate version of the bill, I worked to include an unpaid leave provision. It was in the Senate version, but it was dropped by the Senate Judiciary Committee.
In my view, that was wrong. It's like leaving someone trapped in a burning building. We should have knocked down the barriers and thrown open the exit doors, but the Senate failed – and that will have a real impact on people trapped in abusive relationships.
 
The protections I sought were reasonable. It would have allowed victims to take up to 10 days of unpaid leave per year to address domestic violence. Over 40 percent of American workers get no paid time off. They cannot use vacation time to address abuse, and missing work puts them in danger of losing their job. My provision would have allowed victims to take unpaid leave to get a protective order, see a doctor, or make a safety plan.
 
But unfortunately, there was opposition and complaints about jurisdiction, and these protections were stripped from the bill during consideration in the Judiciary Committee. See: Senator Murray's October 6th Speech
 
My Attempt to Include Unemployment Insurance Benefits
 
Once those protections were dropped, I kept fighting. I offered another tool to help victims escape abusive relationships. I asked the managers of the bill to include a provision on unemployment insurance. I asked them to provide victims of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, or stalking with unemployment insurance if they have to leave their job or are fired because of abuse.
 
We know that a job is often the only way for victims to build up the resources to leave a violent relationship, but abuse and stalking can make it impossible for a victim to keep a job.
 
Many of my colleagues may recall the story of Yvette Cade, of Maryland. As reported in the Washington Post, Ms. Cade’s estranged husband showed up at her job at a wireless phone store, threw gasoline on her, and lit her on fire. A restraining order against her estranged husband had been dropped shortly before the incident, even though she had indicated he was still threatening her. Ms. Cade was burned over 60 percent of her body and remains in the hospital.
 
There are many more cases of abusers who deliberately sabotaging a victim’s ability to work, placing harassing phone calls, cutting off their transportation, and showing up at the workplace and threatening other employees. When a victim loses a job because of violence, that victim should have access to unemployment compensation benefits.
 
Recognize the Full Cost of Domestic Violence
 
Mr. President, some people might claim that it is too expensive to allow victims to access unpaid leave. But I would remind my colleagues that domestic violence imposes costs on a workplace too. When violence follows victims into the workplace, it doesn’t just hurt victims - it hurts their employers. It means less productivity and higher insurance costs.
So anyone who says it's too expensive to provide unpaid leave should also remember that domestic violence is expensive to businesses to in both lives and dollars. Providing the tools that will allow abused women to escape abusive relationships can help offset billions of dollars in costs that domestic violence imposes on businesses.
 
I'll Continue the Fight
 
Mr. President, unfortunately, my efforts to include unpaid leave provisions were rejected as well. But I'm not giving up. I've been at this since 1998 and I know who I'm fighting for. I've been to the shelters in my state, and I've talked with the victims. I've met with their advocates, and I'm not giving up on them. For example, see: Senator Murray's remarks at a roundtable in Bellevue on August 3rd
 
My SAFE Act
 
I'm going to keep pushing for my SAFE Act, which stands for the Security and Financial Empowerment Act. (Details) It contains the protections victims need to break the cycle of violence. I would like to thank Senators Leahy, Corzine, Dayton and Dodd for signing on as original cosponsors, and would invite all of my colleagues to sign on as well.
 
Mr. President, I'm going to continue to tell their stories because we need to hear their voices here in the United States Senate. It's easy to argue about jurisdiction, but that doesn't mean anything to someone who's getting beaten up every night. It's easy to argue about the cost of unpaid leave – but that doesn't mean anything to someone who needs to get a protective order so they can escape a violent relationship.
 

2005/12/21

The Law is The Law

@ 06:25 PM (30 months, 27 days ago)

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2005/12/20

Crystal Judson Violence Protocol Bill Passes in Congress

@ 04:52 AM (30 months, 28 days ago)
Congress passes Crystal Judson bill to help stop abuse
PAUL SAND; The News Tribune
Published: December 19th, 2005 02:30 AM

They were told it could take five years or more for Congress to take notice.

But over the weekend, the family of Crystal Judson Brame celebrated a victory for abused women across the United States, her father, Lane Judson, said Sunday.
 
Crystal was fatally shot by her husband, Tacoma Police Chief David Brame, in 2003. Brame then took his own life.
 
Now, Congress has approved a bill with a provision that will allow local and state law enforcement agencies to apply for more than $200 million in federal money per fiscal year to fund domestic violence programs.
 
The “Crystal Judson Domestic Violence Protocol Program” aims to train local victim advocates, ensure a more consistent response to domestic violence in law enforcement agencies and provide Department of Justice oversight.
 
“We just were so happy,” said Lane Judson, 70, of Gig Harbor. “It was the best Christmas present you could ever get.”
 
Judson said his family gathered around a television Saturday to watch the House action on C-SPAN. The group included the Brames’ two children, Haley, 10, and David Jr., 8.
 
The children were nearby in April 2003 as their father shot their mother in a Gig Harbor parking lot, before he shot and killed himself.
 
The couple was in the middle of a divorce.
 
In court documents, Judson accused Brame of domestic violence.
 
“The kids watched (Saturday) and they were in awe in seeing their mama’s name being brought up on the (House) floor,” Lane Judson said. He said it reaffirms his belief that “an individual or a family in America really can make a difference.”
 
The Judson provision that frees up domestic violence education and awareness funds for local and state law enforcement agencies was part of the Violence Against Women Act, which Congress reauthorized over the weekend. Before the action, it was unclear if the money was available to local law enforcement agencies, said U.S. Rep. Norm Dicks (D-Belfair).
 
“Law enforcement agencies should be setting an example, and there’s a serious problem nationwide,” Dicks said Sunday in a telephone interview. “Hopefully, these cities will have a program that will prevent someone from being abused.”
 
Shortly before his daughter died May 3, 2003, Lane Judson held her hand and promised her he would not allow another woman to be abused or killed by her partner.
 
Two days after her funeral, Judson and his wife, Patty, started their 21/2-year campaign to persuade state and national lawmakers to get serious about domestic violence by providing more funding for education and awareness.
 
They lobbied Washington’s congressional delegation, spoke and met with congressional aides, and eventually started a letter-writing campaign that targeted Democratic Sens. Patty Murray and Maria Cantwell, Rep. Dave Reichert (R-Bellevue) and Dicks.
 
Since September, about 8,000 people signed letters that the Judsons sent to the officials’ offices, urging them to make domestic violence a priority in Congress.
 
Judson said his family was “elated” and “couldn’t believe it” when an aide from Democratic Rep. Jay Inslee’s office called Friday to say the bill probably would pass during the weekend.
 
“We’re just so happy,” Patty Judson said. “If we can save one life, that means a lot to us. We just want to help the women out there that are being abused as we speak.”
 
Paul Sand: 253-597-8872
 
 
Stop and think about the fact that a woman was murdered in order for this bill to pass. Please, if you are involved in a violent relationship, married to a law enforcement officer or know someone who is, help is available, confidential and free of charge. Please contact 1-800-799-SAFE
Susan Murphy-Milano

2005/12/17

Another Police Officer Laughing all the way..Ho, Ho, Ho,

@ 07:40 AM (31 months, 1 day ago)
 
Once Again, a law enforcement officer from Midletown, CT, is a serious offender and no one is removing him from his job.  That's right it's okay to threaten and fatally harm someone your married too.  With your own handgun, and if your a police officer the department looks the other way.  I've bloged on far too many of these cases, often resulting in tragedy. The kicker here is because some half wit judge dimissed his case and because he is so loved by his fellow officers, now Tropper Rondinone is trying to get his arrest record removed from court documents.  So folks, we have officers on police departments across the country who can go around and threaten the life of their spouse and get away with it.   There are a lot of women married to police officers whose cries for help fall on deaf ears. So they remain living in fear because the very law that is suppose to protect them does not.  And it's no wonder.  And yes, this still makes my skin crawl each time I see these cases.  For if someone had listened to my own mother who was married to a chicago violent crimes detective, perhaps, just perhaps we'd be spending the holidays together.  Instead, the only place I can visit her is at her grave.     
 
Dec 3, 2005
[CT] Trooper Rondinone arrested for dv crime "AGAIN"
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/police_dv/message/4201
...Middletown police had been called to the (Rondidone) couple's home several times for domestic disputes, sources said...  (Marlo Rondinone said) in court records that her estranged husband was verbally and physically abusive after he moved out on Feb. 5 and had threatened her with a handgun... In February, according to court records, Marlo Rondinone said Michael Rondinone went to her home and threatened that if she didn't give him what he wanted, he would "blow my head off,"...  police arrested Rondinone in July, charging him with violating a restraining order... Trooper Rondinone is a young, hard-working trooper. He is very well thought of by his peers, his co-workers and management," LeBlanc said. "We as a union are going to work with him to help him get through this process."...
 
Dec 16, 2005
[CT] <DV> Repeat violator Trooper Rondinone wants record erased.
...Two months after a judge dismissed a domestic dispute charge against Michael E. Rondinone, the state police trooper is now seeking a special form of probation following a second arrest... Rondinone, 35, applied for accelerated rehabilitation, a special form of probation for first-time offenders that would give him the opportunity to have his arrest record erased...
 
 
 
TWO ARTICLES. 1 FROM JULY. 1 FROM 1999
 
 
ACCUSED TROOPER GETS DESK WORK -
FACES CHARGE LINKED TO RESTRAINING ORDER
The Hartford Courant, (CT)
July 27, 2005
GREGORY SEAY; Courant Staff Writer
Courant Staff Wrier Josh Kovner contributed to this story.
 
A state trooper whose estranged wife claims he threatened her with a gun has been relieved of his badge and sidearm and is charged with violating a restraining order, authorities said Tuesday.
 
Michael E. Rondinone, 34, a former Middletown police officer who joined state police in 2001, is free on $2,500 bail pending an Aug. 26 appearance in Superior Court in Middletown. He was arrested Saturday by East Hampton police.
 
A state police spokesman, Sgt. J. Paul Vance, said Rondinone, who is assigned to the Troop I Barracks in Bethany, has been temporarily assigned to administrative duties pending the outcome of the criminal complaint.
 
Vance said Rondinone isn't being handled any differently in the wake of a fatal incident June 15 in the parking lot of a Middletown courthouse in which retired State Trooper Michael Bochicchio Jr. fatally shot his estranged wife and wounded her lawyer before killing himself.
 
Reached Tuesday, Rondinone, a Middletown resident who served eight years with the Middletown police, referred questions to his attorney and to state police.
 
Family court records indicate Rondinone's estranged wife, Marlo Rondinone, 43, of Hog Hill Road in East Hampton, was granted a restraining order against her husband after she filed for divorce in February. The couple, married in Springfield in 2003, have two daughters, aged 2 and 1.
 
According to an affidavit Marlo Rondinone filed with the court, her estranged husband was verbally and physically abusive after he moved out on Feb. 5. She claimed in court papers that he had previously threatened her with his handgun.
 
"Because he is a state trooper and has a gun, I fear for my life during his violent, uncontrollable outbursts and threats,'' her affidavit says.
 
In a Feb. 20 incident, Michael Rondinone came to their house about 1:30 p.m. and threatened that if his wife didn't give him what he wanted, he "will blow my head off,'' the affidavit says. He began slinging papers, a dish and other items that were on a counter onto the floor, then grabbed and shook her.
 
Another time, she claims in papers, he punched her in her upper arm.
Marlo Rondinone could not be reached Tuesday for comment.
 
According to court records, Marlo Rondinone was also the subject of a restraining order request. Salvatore Salafia of Middletown, Marlo Rondinone's first husband, last November sought a restraining order against his former wife after she allegedly verbally harassed and threatened him during their 11-year-old daughter's weekend visit at his home.
 
 
 

2005/12/16

New Theft Scheme on the Rise

@ 07:53 AM (31 months, 2 days ago)

You've been out shopping or running errands, your day is hectic, then you walk across to the parking lot to your car and get inside to head home.

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2005/12/15

Connecting with that Old Friend or Family Member

@ 06:45 AM (31 months, 3 days ago)

I just located an old friend, found them on the internet, I realized hadn't spoken with him in 15 years. As I was searching I used the excuse of the holidays and trying to re-connect. I wondered where the years had gone.  The magical time in both our young lives, and with a snap of a finger, poof.  I may be older, a tad heavier and silver haired,  but I'd like to think I am a bit wiser.  Our kids now close to adulthood and our lives have taken different directions.  Neither of us could recall why we hadn't kept in touch with one another. Imagine trying to get 15 years worth of personal history and accomplishments into one simple email, I am here to tell you it just isn't possible. 

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2005/12/13

Judge Rules Cop Murderer Can Pay For Defense-Blogers Please lend your voice

@ 03:51 PM (31 months, 5 days ago)
A judge has ruled and allowed a murderer to go ahead and sell financial assets for his defense.  He killed his ex-wife plain and simple.  Tina Curran's mother (the deceased )was asking that proceeds from the sale of personal items and real estate go to the support of the children.  Instead, the Judge ruled in favor of the former cop in order to pay for his legal defense.  This is an outrage!    Prosecutors have already indicated that they will seek the death penalty if Former Police Chief, Mr. Curran is convicted of first-degree murder in the Aug. 24 killing of his ex-wife, Tina Curran, who was shot to death outside Shamokin Area Community Hospital.   Tina Curran's mother, Bonnie K. Smith, of Mount Carmel, is the guardian of the Currans' two daughters, Caitlyn, 8, and Alexia, 4, and she had asked the judge to prevent Mr. Curran from using the proceeds from the sale of his property, so that any money from such a sale could provide support for the girls.   In a ruling released last week, Judge Charles Saylor said that because courts recognize a constitutional right to hire a defense attorney, he would not stop the defense attorney from selling Mr. Curran's possessions. But Mr. Rominger had indicated in court that the $2,448 in back child-support payments would be covered when those possessions are sold, and the judge ruled that those payments should be "the first obligation paid."  -Hello- Why should he be allowed to use money that should go to the kids for a legal defense??? _______________ Overview--- In August of 2005, Former Police Chief Richard Curran, of Millerstown, PA, shot his ex-wife, Tina Curran to death just outside the community hospital where she was employed as an emergency nurse.

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2005/12/12

Take Teen Suicide Seriously

@ 06:47 PM (31 months, 6 days ago)

As a parent, you must stay involved in your teens life.  It is important to be interested in their school activities home and social life.  Life is  precious and it must thrive within a family setting or it will surely die because of a lack of communication and most of all love.  This is especially important if the family unit is breaking up because of divorce.  Often your teenager whom you assume will be fine and able to cope with what's happening, cannot.

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2005/12/10

Emotional Roller Coaster of Abusive Relationships

@ 10:49 PM (31 months, 7 days ago)

The Emotional Roller Coaster of Abusive Relationships

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Lets give Candy Canes To Officers who Commit Crimes This Seasson, Shall We?

@ 04:02 AM (31 months, 8 days ago)

Are Police Departments Rewarding Abusive Cops?

Florida] Deputy Daniel Spiese ACQUITTED. Wife: "I'm scared to death of him"
Where is the Outrage from the ACLU, the Media? Our are we still on that Christmas issue and whether or not we should call christmas, "christmas" or" Winter Holiday"?

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2005/12/8

Divorce? Do You KNow Your Options? What Do You Do First?

@ 03:15 PM (31 months, 10 days ago)

Thinking About Divorce Or Ending Your Relationship? What Do You Do First? Do You Know Your Options?

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2005/12/7

Relationship Abuse Issues-what you need to know

@ 05:29 PM (31 months, 11 days ago)

All of us at one time or another looks for that special person to share their lives. In healthy relationships partners support one another, through both the good and bad times.

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2005/12/6

Life's Magic Wand

@ 08:06 PM (31 months, 11 days ago)

 

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2005/12/5

Being Prepared Prior To Seeing A Divorce Attorney

@ 03:58 PM (31 months, 13 days ago)

 

Here is a list of documents you should concentrate on, prior to seeking the services of a lawyer or a mediator when ending your marriage.

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Left for a New Model

@ 05:29 AM (31 months, 13 days ago)

The House was now empty; the familiar morning smells of fresh clean water from the bathroom, the scent of his cologne lingering in the air, the coffee pot, and half empty still on, waiting for me to pour myself a cup. He is no longer here, my husband of 21 years.  Perhaps they are together right now, lying in bed, holding onto each other tightly, hating to leave the warmth and love to begin a new day.

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2005/12/3

Keys to Surviving Trauma

@ 03:46 PM (31 months, 15 days ago)
As individuals we have suffered many traumas, the magnitude of which for many who experience loss and at a certain level is often, beyond words. Looking through trauma is like being trapped in the back of a mirror, there is no reflection of self. It is like being trapped in darkness, unable to see where to go or what is there, surrounded by “not knowing”, paralyzed by fear.

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The Joy of Our Children

@ 04:13 AM (31 months, 15 days ago)
Babies and joy go together. You have to wait for the arrival of a baby. It takes months of expectation, preparation, anticipation. And when the baby at last arrives, there is great joy. Grandparents arrive, older brothers and sisters are excited and proud. First pictures are passed around for admiration.

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2005/12/1

Tis The Season To Get Taken To The Cleaners

@ 06:05 PM (31 months, 17 days ago)

Thursday, December 01, 2005

The Holiday Season is upon us on again. And for many families considering divorce or ending a relationship, that means no mistletoe hanging above a doorway or a holiday wreath displayed brightly on this once happy household. Instead, both men and women will be staying together through the year end, some because of tax reasons, others because they want one more holiday together for the sake of the kids. Most will wait until the new year to seek legal services and advice before calling it quits on their marriage.

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