Indicators That Your Relationship May Be Lethal
Indicators That an Abuser May Be Lethal
--Any person who hits their partner is capable of killing. Plain and simple
--Choking can be lethal and the victim can have hidden injuries that can cause death from choking that may not show up for several days.
--A huge indicator...does he/she abuse animals and family pets? Any person who can harm and animal will harm people.
--While not all people who drink or use drugs are violent...people who are violent
More indicators:
The Checklist for "Is He/She Lethal?"
The Assessment of how much danger you are in?
You should be advised that the presence of these indicators may mean your mate is planning to kill you. Do not ever say, "It cannot happen to me." And violence is not gender specific. Meaning it happens just as frequently as in same sex relationships, it is just not talked about as much. And more women 8-10 each day loose their lives in this country.
You can become a victim of homicide in a
domestic violence incident!
This means you must take immediate action
to protect yourself!
You should contact your local battered woman's program to further assess if your partner is lethal and develop a good safety plan.
If you cannot get local assistance in your area contact:
The Domestic Violence National Hotline
This is a 24-hour 7 days a week hotline with trained counselors for immediate crisis intervention assistance.
Some abusers are more likely to kill then others considering these factors.
But the greater the number of checks the greater the risk, the greater of intensity of each item the greater the likelihood of a life threatening attack.
Remember that the past acts of violence are not accurate as predictor of future violence.
Violence increases and gets worse.
1. He has threatened to kill himself, or you or the children, your relatives. This is considered to be an extremely dangerous situation.
2. If he has ever said something to you in the order of, "you die before we divorce," or
"You are mine and I will not let anyone else have you.
3. Does he have access to weapons?
4. There has been frequent physical assault against you?
5. There has been frequent and severe sexual abuse.
6. There batterer has seriously injured you.
7. He takes you hostage. WARNING!
This is a super dangerous situation, there is a great chance of homicide.
8. He makes threats against the children.
9. Abuser has a history of criminal violence.
10. Uses drugs or alcohol abuse, extreme intoxication.
11. He is severely depressed or acute depression with seeing little hope.
12. You have separated from your abuser, he cannot envision life with out you or the separation causes him great despair or rage.
13. Suicidal threats, attempts, or plans.
14. He has acted out part of the homicide or suicide fantasy, he may be totally invested in killing as a viable solution to his problems.
15. If he idolizes you, or depends heavily upon you to organize, and keep his life together, and has no friends but you.
16. Access to you, if he knows where he can find you then he can kill you, if he cannot find you then he does not have access.
17. If you have made prior calls to the police, the more calls you make the greater the risk. This includes the calls you should have made but did not for fear of being killed or hurt further.
18. When he does not care if he gets arrested, not scared of going to jail, or the police, and does not care how he looks to his kids.
19. He has an explosive temper and is violent outside the home.
Indicators That an Abuser May Be Lethal
--Any person who hits their partner is capable of killing. Plain and simple
--Choking can be lethal and the victim can have hidden injuries that can cause death from choking that may not show up for several days.
--A huge indicator...does he/she abuse animals and family pets? Any person who can harm and animal will harm people.
--While not all people who drink or use drugs are violent...people who are violent
More indicators:
The Checklist for "Is He/She Lethal?"
The Assessment of how much danger you are in?
You should be advised that the presence of these indicators may mean your mate is planning to kill you. Do not ever say, "It cannot happen to me." And violence is not gender specific. Meaning it happens just as frequently as in same sex relationships, it is just not talked about as much. And more women 8-10 each day loose their lives in this country.
You can become a victim of homicide in a
domestic violence incident!
This means you must take immediate action
to protect yourself!
You should contact your local battered woman's program to further assess if your partner is lethal and develop a good safety plan.
If you cannot get local assistance in your area contact:
The Domestic Violence National Hotline
This is a 24-hour 7 days a week hotline with trained counselors for immediate crisis intervention assistance.
Some abusers are more likely to kill then others considering these factors.
But the greater the number of checks the greater the risk, the greater of intensity of each item the greater the likelihood of a life threatening attack.
Remember that the past acts of violence are not accurate as predictor of future violence.
Violence increases and gets worse.
1. He has threatened to kill himself, or you or the children, your relatives. This is considered to be an extremely dangerous situation.
2. If he has ever said something to you in the order of, "you die before we divorce," or
"You are mine and I will not let anyone else have you.
3. Does he have access to weapons?
4. There has been frequent physical assault against you?
5. There has been frequent and severe sexual abuse.
6. There batterer has seriously injured you.
7. He takes you hostage. WARNING!
This is a super dangerous situation, there is a great chance of homicide.
8. He makes threats against the children.
9. Abuser has a history of criminal violence.
10. Uses drugs or alcohol abuse, extreme intoxication.
11. He is severely depressed or acute depression with seeing little hope.
12. You have separated from your abuser, he cannot envision life with out you or the separation causes him great despair or rage.
13. Suicidal threats, attempts, or plans.
14. He has acted out part of the homicide or suicide fantasy, he may be totally invested in killing as a viable solution to his problems.
15. If he idolizes you, or depends heavily upon you to organize, and keep his life together, and has no friends but you.
16. Access to you, if he knows where he can find you then he can kill you, if he cannot find you then he does not have access.
17. If you have made prior calls to the police, the more calls you make the greater the risk. This includes the calls you should have made but did not for fear of being killed or hurt further.
18. When he does not care if he gets arrested, not scared of going to jail, or the police, and does not care how he looks to his kids.
19. He has an explosive temper and is violent outside the home.
20. Obsessive Jealousy.
Susan Murphy Milano www.movingoutmovingon.com
